This is quite the conundrum for our agony aunt Em Clarkson (Picture: Getty / metro.co.uk)
Metro’s agony aunt Em Clarkson is here to solve all your problems – this week she tackles quite the dating query from ‘the other woman’.
Dear Em, I’m seeing a man who I really like, but I know he’s had a girlfriend for six years and he’s taking Christmas to ‘choose’. I have no idea what to do because I’ve never got on with anyone better.
I’m going to say this to you with my metaphorical hands on your shoulders: you deserve to spend your life with someone who chooses you, without hesitation, every single time.
You are not a chocolate yoghurt, you are not a new toothbrush, you are not a pair of trainers. You are not an eenie-meanie moment. You are not a take it or leave it.
You are, for the right person, the ONLY imaginable outcome.
And so please, for the good of your life, get yourself up and off of this man’s shelf.
Metro’s agony aunt Em Clarkson is dishing out the tough love this week (Picture: Natasha Pszenicki)
Ask Em Clarkson: Your questions answered
Em Clarkson is here to solve all your problems.
Well, sort of.
As Metro’s agony aunt the influencer, author and content creator (busy much?) is primed and ready to be a sympathetic ear, an oracle of wisdom or, quite simply, a stand-in for that girl in the nightclub bathroom you share your thoughts and dreams with while waiting in line.
While she stresses she’s no alternative for therapy, Em is keen to talk through any quandary.
Do I confront my mate for ditching me from her close friends on Instagram?
My partner wants me to change my name when we get married – I don’t want to
How do I make friends as an adult? It’s coming up to Christmas and I don’t have any
My maid of honour is getting married and I’ve been left out of her bridal party
My best friend is having an affair with a married man – I’m so disappointed
I’m sick of my coupled-up friends treating me like a second class citizen
My friend never wants to see me now she’s a new mum. I feel so rejected…
My boyfriend is the best man at a wedding, but I wasn’t invited. He’s still going…
My dad’s cheating on my mum – but she’s desperate to win him back
My partner makes more than me – but refuses to pay more of our bills
You and your life are worth *so* much more than waiting around to find out if you come second best to a woman this man has spent the last six years with.
At the very least it’s worth remembering that if they can do it with you, they can do it to you.
But it’s not even about that right now.
Make this choice for him. Make it for his girlfriend, and make it for you.
Choose yourself, please.
Want to ask Em Clarkson a question?
With nearly 300,000 followers on Instagram and a reputation as one of the more honest influencers out there, Em is often asked for advice in her DMs. Now, she wants to do the same in Metro, as our newest columnist.
No topic is off limits. So if you’ve a question for her agony aunt series, email askem@metro.co.uk.
‘I really like him.’