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In all the cities in all the land, which bustling town has the worst sex life?
It’s a question you have probably never pondered, but a new Lovehoney survey has found that there is one city in the UK that can’t seem to get any satisfaction.
According to the survey of 1,500 people carried out by the sexual wellness brand, people in Belfast have the worst sex. 18% of people living in the capital of Northern Ireland admit their sexual desires are not met, while a further 33% have unfulfilled sexual fantasies.
Many Belfast residents are afraid that their sexual preferences are more kinky than their partners(24%), and 30% say they kept these fantasies a secret because they didn’t think their partner would like or accept it.
Like Belfast, it doesn’t look too good for Edinburgh either. The city has come out on top as the hub with the most people not having their sexual desires met.
However, in Glasgow, the outlook is much different. People there are having great sex, with 65% of people admitting all their sexual desires are fulfilled.
The survey focused on the UK’s sexual secrets and the many aspects of sexuality that people are keeping confidential. Lovehoney noted that for most of us, when it comes to opening up to partners about our sexual wishes, many feel embarrassed and would rather keep quiet.
In the survey, a fear of being judged (32%) and embarrassed (30%) were some of the main reasons why British people keep their desires classified.
Our apprehension is so bad that over one in five Brits (22%) have lied to a partner about how many people they’ve had sex with. Interestingly, this is very common in Brighton, where nearly a third of the population (30%) said they’ve kept this from a partner.
Speaking to Lovehoney about the survey, sex expert Ness Cooper explained why openness about sex is so vital in a partnership.
‘We’re forever changing in how we like and respond to sexual stimuli, and how our senses process sex can be different on different days,’ Ness explained.’Being open about how you’re feeling in your mind and body can help you navigate the sex you’d benefit from the most at that given time.
‘This could be changing sex positions to feel gentler or more comfortable, or explaining that you need something more intense on that particular day.
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‘When we’re not open about sex, sometimes it can feel like a vicious cycle where we’re hoping for our partner to either change or problem solve the dissatisfaction. Learning to be open about when something isn’t working for you can help reduce this negative game in the bedroom.
‘Some sexual preferences may take time for you to share though, and that’s ok. It’s not always a quick and sudden process.’
To help alleviate the issue, Ness advises individuals to try some toys to discover what they do and don’t like. ‘If you’re unsure about what exactly you want or need in the bedroom, using sex toys solo can be a good way to learn about erotic embodiment and what sensations feel good for you,’ she says.
‘This in turn can make it easier to communicate those likes to a partner. Small dildos, vibrators, or butt plugs can be a great starting point, so see how these work for you, and then you might like to think about introducing them to a partner.’
Meanwhile, if you are looking at ways to open honestly in the bedroom and create more intimacy, Metro put together a list of 70 sex questions to ask your partner, from the dirty to the flirty.
The questions should help you help you connect with each other on a deeper level, and spark conversations that might not have happened without a little prompt.
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