Vanessa Feltz is not averse to chatting about her sex life (Picture: Ken McKay/ITV/REX/Shutterstock)
Vanessa Feltz has (again) shared a no holds barred insight into her relationship with partner Ben Ofoedu, insisting that their 10-year age gap ‘gets worse’ and she’s dealing with ‘nonstop hurly-burly’.
There’s a lot to unpack here.
Vanessa, 60, and Phats & Small star Ben, 50, have been engaged since 2006 and in a recent interview opened up on their relationship and, in no uncertain terms, what former BBC Radio 2 presenter called their ‘bloody annoying’ age gap.
She said: ‘Don’t let anyone tell you the age gap doesn’t matter. It’s bloody annoying and it gets worse.’
According to Vanessa, Ben has ‘youthful urges’ which has meant she’s, in turn, ‘upped’ her game, ‘in every way for 16 exhausting years’.
Reflecting on how going through menopause only made things worse, Vanessa added to The Sunday Times: ‘If I’d had the same old husband I’d have settled in. Sex? Are you crazy? I’m hot. I’m tired. I’m old. But Ben is young and frolicsome, which is part of his allure. I have had to be far more frolicsome than any menopausal woman should have to be.
Ben and Vanessa are, apparently, ‘frolicsome’ (Picture: Mike Marsland/Getty Images for Orion Books)
The pair have been engaged since 2006 (Picture: PA)
‘It’s been nonstop hurly-burly at the door, in the car, on the chaise longue, when all I really wanted was to melt or sob or scream.’
Still, after dropping a Wet Let lyric on the sly, she concedes, it’s ‘way better than sticking my head in the freezer’, so there’s that.
The TalkTV host added even in moments where she ‘can’t stand the thought of sex’ she likes feeling close to her partner, plus ‘while I’m at it I can’t eat or drink, so I haven’t put on any weight’.
It’s not even close to the first time Vanessa has waxed lyrical on her bedroom exploits with Ben, after she previously boasted of their ‘athletic’ sex life.
The star told The Sun in 2019: ‘As long as I’ve got a spring in my step and a bit of “oomph”, I’m still in the market for a bit of spectacular athletic sex – much more than the missionary position.’
Vanessa, who is mum to Allegra, and Saskia, both in their 30s, from her first marriage to surgeon Michael Kurer, continued: ‘If anything my libido has gone up rather than down.
‘I can’t get pregnant anymore and with empty nest syndrome, the great up shot of that is you can have sex in any position, at any time, over the kitchen counter, in the garage, over the dishwasher, wherever. And who’s to say you shouldn’t. While you still want to, you should.’
Vanessa added: ‘Every time he comes home he asks me to rub his lamp for him and I say yes because that’s the kind of girl I am.’
You weren’t eating, were you?
Good for her.
