Woman who paid for dinner date brands man ‘red flag’ (Picture: GETTY)
To split or not to split, that is the question.
We think it’s safe to say people are always going to have different opinions when it comes to who should pay on a date.
But one annoyed dater took to Mumsnet to share her cheque fiasco on a second date, branding the guy a red flag for not offering to split the £110 bill.
And no, he wasn’t the one paying. She was, and she wasn’t happy.
The woman wrote: ‘Met a guy online. First date, walk in the countryside near to where he lived. Seemed a really nice guy with great interests and gorgeous dog!
‘Stopped at a café and had sandwich lunch about £8 each, no alcohol or anything. Very kindly he offered to pay and I accepted. No kiss or anything like that.
The woman said she’d pay but got upset the man didn’t cover his half (picture: getty)
‘Second date he said he was going to be working near me and would I like to do something. I offered to book a pub dinner near to where he would clock off.
‘Again it went well I thought, but conscious on seeing the prices on the menu I knew I wouldn’t want him to pay for me particularly as he had bought me the sandwich.
‘At the end of the meal when he asked for the bill, I said “you paid last time so I don’t want you paying again”.
‘He misconstrued this as me saying I would settle the whole thing (what I meant was we just had split it) and I guess I was so flummoxed that this had happened I just paid, especially since the waitress was kind of hovering over us…I was embarrassed to talk about it. Bill was £110!
‘I guess I just wonder if this is a major red flag. I don’t know him well enough to determine and honestly it’s put me off I don’t think I want to meet up again.
‘Yes I can afford it as I’ve worked really hard to build up my own business. I didn’t tell about money at all and am not flashy but I did talk about what I do and maybe he just made a assumption?’
But the internet wasn’t too impressed with this woman’s take on the situation, branding it a simple ‘misunderstanding’ and saying she wasn’t clear.
The date went well until the cheque came out (Picture: Getty Images)
One commenter wrote: ‘From your description, it sounds like you offered to pay. I wouldn’t think he did anything wrong to accept.’
Another agreed, writing: ‘I think you said you wanted to pay the bill. Certainly that’s what it sounds like. If someone said that to me I’d probably protest given the value, but he might also have been flustered.
‘After all, you chose the venue, so would have looked at prices in advance. You also offered to pay, although you probably weren’t clear that you were only offering to pay for yourself.’
But others did partially see where she was coming from. One wrote: ‘Sounds like a misunderstanding on his part to me. Perhaps see what happens on a 3rd date and if you see it going anywhere before you bin him.
‘However if he doesn’t offer to pay this time then yeah, he’s not a keeper.’
Another said: ‘I would’ve thought exactly the same as him from what you said. If I’d caught sight of the bill though, I’d insist it was too much for one person to pay.’
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‘I guess I just wonder if this is a major red flag’.
