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It’s Boxing Day, and while some will have enjoyed a harmonious Christmas with the family, for others, the atmosphere today may be a little frosty.
Whether you criticised you mum’s roast potatoes, or you fell out with your uncle over a game of Articulate, you might be in the mood to apologise today.
Of course, it’s worth pointing out here that some family disagreements run deep – and it’ll take more than saying, or hearing, the word ‘sorry’ to move on.
But, for minor festive disagreements with a relative you otherwise have a good relationship with, it’s a good idea to clear the air now, rather than let tensions linger into the New Year.
So, if you want to apologise, how do you go about it?
Joanna Konstantopoulou is a health psychologist and founder of Health Psychology Clinic.
She says that when saying ‘sorry’, it’s important to pick your time carefully.
‘Give everyone time to sober up, cool down and reflect on the incident,’ she says. ‘Start your apology by recognising the importance of Christmas Day and how the argument may have impacted the festive atmosphere for both the children and the adults.
‘Make it clear that you regret the argument occurring on a day meant for joy and togetherness.
‘Acknowledge that the holiday season holds special meaning for everyone, and you are sorry for contributing to any negative emotions.’
Joanna says you should also explain how you value being with your loved ones during the holidays. ‘Emphasise your commitment to preserving the family bond and creating positive memories during this festive season,’ she says.
‘If the argument wasn’t too serious, injecting a bit of humour can help lighten the mood. A well-timed joke or light-hearted comment can break the tension and pave the way for a more positive conversation.’
She also says you might want to combine your apology with a gesture.
’Something that aligns with the Christmas spirit,’ says Joanna. ‘This could be a heartfelt apology card, a small gift, or even a shared activity that brings the family together and reinforces a sense of unity.
‘Remember, the goal is to restore the holiday cheer and foster a sense of unity among family members.
‘A sincere and thoughtful apology can go a long way in repairing relationships during this special time of the year.’
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Don’t let a small argument with a loved one fester into the new year.