Our Agony Aunt Jordan Gray has your answer! (Picture: Dylan Woodley)

English comedian and singer Jordan Gray made history as the first ever transgender person to appear on The Voice, back in 2016, where she was a semi-finalist.

She more recently made headlines after proving to be an icon when she ended her Friday Night Live performance completely, entirely, butt-naked.

Jordan, who was assigned male at birth, has been open about undergoing her transition, and in 2018, underwent breast enlargement on Transformation Street.

She’s elsewhere starred in her own ITV sitcom, Transaction, and won NextUp’s Biggest Award in Comedy at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival last year.

Today, she’s taking on the role of Metro’s Agony Aunt, and answering your question on how to best support your trans child.

Dear Jordan, I’m a mum to three teenagers and my youngest child recently told me that they were trans and want to start transitioning. I felt really proud of their bravery when they told me, and am really supportive of them but my initial reaction was shocked and I don’t think they took it well. I now feel as though I’ve closed up a path to further discussion and don’t know what to do or how best to approach a conversation and show how supportive I actually am. Can you help?

Jordan made history with her iconic Friday Night Live performance (Picture: Ash Knotek/Shutterstock)

You don’t need to be a triple-parent to ascertain that looking after three kids can sometimes be a thankless task. And as anyone who’s ever come to my defence on Twitter knows, supporting transgender people is often equally thankless.

So as somebody about to do both, I salute you! All I can suggest is that you make preparations for a long, lonely, difficult life ahead… for your other 2 kids.

As the token trans of three siblings myself, your two less exciting children should settle in for a life of being overshadowed by your sparkly new wunderkind. Let them know there’s no shame in being bland forgettable blobs of mediocrity, as you wrap your golden child in rainbow flags and smother them with all the extra love they deserve for being the most fun.

Your trans child is about to metamorphosize into a confident, charismatic (if not slightly self-involved) butterfly. They will be held up on every pedestal, and no amount of love or affection from you will ever spike their dopamine receptors quite as much as the validation they receive from strangers on Instagram, for their brave decision to finally be themselves.

Watch as they win over the hearts of the nation via reality TV singing shows, international comedy festivals and a notable naked skit on Friday Night Live. A world of joy, acceptance and deeper self-understanding awaits them, while you and their failed prototypes must dutifully internalize the incontrovertible fact that God simply loves transgender people more.

In all seriousness (GB News viewers won’t have cottoned-on to the irony so far) CONGRATULATIONS on your new trans kid! You have raised a brave revolutionary and your love and support for them is tantamount to laying down roots on the right side of history.

Now for a useful answer to your question (Ha! Can you imagine?).

Teenagers are teenagers. As you already know, having raised two more, it’s a loud and messy affair – even from the best of them. Throw in a hard left turn into another gender and you’ve got your work cut out. But it’s also a blessing.

The fact that your TEENAGE kid felt comfortable to come out to you in the first place tells me that the love and trust is already there. Ya did good, mate! Now comes the patience (you’re a Mum, that won’t be hard). Please don’t let yourself blame any tension between the two of you on the transgenderism itself. You could just as easily be on eggshells over finding gum on the sofa. This is no time to drive an imaginary wedge for no reason. Next, remind yourself how icky personal stuff was to talk about with YOUR parents, and don’t come on too strong.

That said, you WILL have to get back up on that big ol’ transgender horse if you want to be a meaningful part of this journey. Not knowing which gender your kid is transitioning into, I will say that the tiniest feminine affirmations from my Mum and Dad always meant the world. Family wedding coming up? Ask your new daughter if she’d like to be a bridesmaid, or your new son if he’d like to wear a suit and complain all day that the women are taking too long. Trust me, us transgenderzoids love a gender cliché (I’m not even joking).

And here’s the clincher: you’re their Mum. Much as teens are often loathed to admit, YOUR words and actions hold A LOT of power – and in moments of tension or instability, it may often be all too easy to accidentally WITHHOLD your affirmations by way of punishment. Don’t do that. Try to remember that even when they’re PE bag is stinking up the landing, they are still transitioning into a new gender. Your affirmations won’t always be cute, fun or celebratory. Is your lazy old son becoming your lazy new daughter? Try calling her a “b***h” instead. Daughter-to-son? The word “b*****d” goes a long way. (For God’s sake don’t actually do this last bit! I’m a comedian, not a family therapist.)

Jokes aside (again, for the GB News fans) me and the Metro are wishing you all the best, Momma Bear! Thank you for your letter. J xX

Jordan Gray is touring her award-winning live show “Is It A Bird?” this Aug-Oct across the UK and Ireland. Visit ticketmaster.co.uk or book via your local box office. Jordan Gray Tickets Comedy in London & UK